Often I am asked by parents, “How can parents tune into the different spiritual qualities of their children? How can I motivate my child spiritually today? What are the best ways to keep my children’s hearts open, loving and expanded as they grow into their adolescent years?
As a mother of three children that are now in their 30’s I must say, I wish I had all the information that is available today for raising holistic spiritual children. Honestly though, the best way to tune into our children’s needs is for us to be centered in ourselves through a meditation practice. This daily practice of stillness can transform anyone’s life and the depth of intuition.
I was guided to begin a meditation practice during 1980s with a group of women, shortly after my third child was born. In the strict Christian faith in which I was raised, I was taught to believe that “God,” or the Holy Spirit (which I visualized literally as a “holy ghost”), or any spiritual experience, should be something far outside of myself. But finally I realized that contacting the Divine was actually a very easy process. I realized that I had the gifts, and that the light was within me all the time.
My new found mediation practice took many forms. At first I was guided by visualization, books, crystals, watching and listening to the VHS videos and audiotapes prevalent then. I was like a sponge, trying to put my hands on any practice that would give me inner guidance and answer my questions about my life’s purpose and how to be truly happy. I became serious about my meditation path and the practice of Kriya Yoga in 1993.
As I was driving my car down a long street on the way to work this morning, I realized that that our life is a long journey, and that the life we share with our children involves nurturing them to tune into the longer rhythms of life. Parenting and teaching are focused on the longer rhythms when we share our spiritual lives with the children that are around us. We have all been drawn together for a higher purpose. We may not yet know the reason why we are together, but there is definitely a reason. I am always telling my students, “You have a great work to do in the world. That is why you have come to our Living Wisdom School. Your life will make a difference too many in the future.”
Every moment that is shared with our children is priceless, and can help to build the foundation that they need for a lifetime. How many times a day do we have to remind our children to do something? How many times do we need to re-tell stories about their birth, or a family event that was important to them? How many times do we have to remind them to brush their teeth, hang out with the right friends, be home on time, write a note to tell you where they are or learn to behave in a restaurant and grocery store? Sometimes, as a parent and teacher, you just wonder, how will I get through this? How am I doing?
Then, one day, you realize that your time with your children is precious. It’s like the wind. It permeates the very essence of your being and then, before you realize it, it leaves you—it subsides and vanishes. We can’t hold on to the wind, but we can surround ourselves with the love of our children and students, feeling it in every fiber of our being through the deep love we feel from the spirit of God that enfolds us. All our lives benefit from knowing each soul.
I once received a profound birth announcement from a family that were new parents. It read,
“May this young child born today be my guiding light and teacher, and may I be still enough to hear the whispers from his soul.”
We all can benefit from time spent attending life’s deeper rhythms. Mediation can feed us. It helps us to become witnesses, holding a calm focus on the deeper intuitive feelings that balance our lives. As a witness to our children, we are able to calmly receive the high truths that will serve their spiritual lives.
“May God’s light expand within you;
May we be one in that light someday.”
--Words from “Go with Love,” by: J. Donald Walters.